ANNOYING FB POSTS

I guess we will consider this my first real gripe here on my Addietudes blog page. Annoying FB posts.  Oh, they come in many types.  You don't want to read them and yet there they are...in your newsfeed, taking up space and causing you more time to get to the posts you really want to read.  Let's take a look at a few.

THE VAGUE posts.  You know the ones...they say things like "some people really get on my nerves, etc..." or " if anybody..so and so..." or the ones that "tell off" some unknown person. But, WHAT GOOD do they do if you won't name the person they are for??  What good is it to give someone a piece of your mind out on a public forum if you can't even make sure that they know the posts are for them?  Why even mention something that you can't clarify for the numerous people who will definitely ask "who you talking about?" or "what's going on?"  I mean, when people read posts on Facebook they are doing so because they want TO KNOW what's going on with people. When they read vague posts they start asking around about who folks are talking about and that leads to a lot of speculation and assumptions sometimes....and we know how bad that can be!  If you need to speak your mind about a general subject, by all means, on occasion, post away! But if you have a specific word for a specific person, then message them, write them, call them, visit them, or at the very least if you're going to post it on Facebook, include their name so I know it's not about me :-)

WHAT'S FOR DINNER??  Ah, yes, the posts that inform us all of the very important list of foods that people are having for breakfast, lunch, dinner, mid-morning snack, midnight snack!! Why do people do that??? Do we really care what people are eating?  I'm certainly not against a great meal, I'm not even against people posting about a really spectacular dish they have made. A dish that took hours to make and multiple tries to conquer until they have finally mastered it. But, what I do get tired of are posts about the ham, cabbage, and cornbread people have made for dinner. (yeah, I'm from the south).  That's a good meal and I'm sure families appreciate it and enjoy it, but unless you're going to figure out a way to fb message me a plate of what you've fixed, keep your dinner menu to yourself please.

Which brings us to the next annoying FB post....the endless pages of RECIPES. No, I'm not against sharing recipes. Most of the ones on my news feed look good, too good in fact, because it makes me hungry and searching for a snack! But....FB isn't the place for it!! Pinterest is! If you're not familiar with Pinterest, you should be. Check it out. I have a whole board just for recipes. But I digress....quite plainly, FB is not for recipe sharing and if you do find a good recipe and decide to make it for dinner, don't tell us that either.

CAUSE I can...Now, I may end up ruffling some feathers with this one, but here goes.  Posts that revolve around a particular cause. Not just one post, an occasional post, or posts during a particular month devoted to that cause, but those that are constantly, day and night, posting about the cause close to their heart. I understand that we all have things that are important to us and that affect us, there are several close to my heart as well, but constantly posting about it rarely changes people's minds or inspires them to get on board with your cause. Soooooo......whether it's breast cancer, childhood cancer, missionaries, autism, motorcycling, RVing, health care reform, presidential impeachment, homeschooling, breastfeeding, or any other cause, pushing it down our throats just makes us want to gag!

Want some WHINE with that??  One of the most annoying FB post to come across as you're scrolling through your news feed is the one complaining about how bad life is, how bad jobs are, how annoying people's kids and husbands and bosses and in-laws are. The worst are the ones that are just complainers all the time, everyday, about everything. Life isn't always great, that's for sure. Bad things happen and it's a bummer! But, unless your bad situation involves some funny story that can bring a smile to someone's face or help it's readers learn some important life lesson, let's refrain from making every post a complaint about lives that are precious gifts!

There are more types of annoying FB posts, to be sure. My opinion, for what's it's worth, is that FB is a great place to keep up with current events in people's lives, pictures of what family and friends have been doing, a great place to reconnect with school mates, keep up with news and weather, and yes, at times, get the scoop on all things.  Now, I must go, because I need to check my news feed and see what everyone is having for dinner tonight ;-)

MEET MY FAMILY

My family, often referred to as my 3 faves, is my pride and joy. 

My husband, Tommy, and I have been married for going on 17 years. He is the pastor of Second Chance Ministries, which is a small church in a small town :-) but we love it!! He also has his own business doing home and yard maintenance, odd jobs, and pretty much anything and everything at times. He is such a hard worker and rarely complains. He is a very positive person, very patient, rarely upset by life, very faithful, and a wonderful father to our two kids. 

My son, Isaiah, is 9 years old and about to enter the 4th grade. He is a very smart student and rarely makes anything lower than an "A".  He loves video games, reading, Legos, army men, nerf guns, playing baseball and football, and did I mention video games :-). 

My daughter, Isabel, is 4 years old. She is such a fun spirited girl and we spend a lot of time laughing at her. She loves playing dollhouse and has several different ones. She is very smart and will be going to preschool  part-time starting in September. She loves to dance and sing and watch TV and her favorite thing to do outside is swing! 

And then there's Louie, our dog. He is part lab and part collie and looks like a black golden retriever. We adopted him from an animal hospital and he is a perfect fit for our family. He is such a good dog and we love him. His favorite thing to do is play and eat :-)

There you have it. My wonderful family. I am blessed to be a stay-at-home mom to my two beautiful children and that is made possible by my husband's hard work. You'll be hearing much more about my family in my blogs, I'm sure. 

Love Language

I've been leading a class at our church on Wednesday nights about the 5 love languages described in the book of the same name. I really like the book and we have had a lot of laughs in our class. Always fun to discuss marriage with a group of married people :-)  

The idea behind the book is that we all have a love language and in order to keep our imaginary "love tanks" (think internal gas tank) full we need to be spoken to in our love language. Dr. Chapman (the Christian counselor who wrote the book) has determined through his years of working with married couples that there are 5 different love languages:  Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.  When your spouse speaks to you in the language that says "LOVE" to you the most, then you respond to them in a positive way.

On the flip-side, if your love tank is empty, you are more likely to respond to your spouse with resentment and anger and bitterness. That's never fun!

It's like the way different people like different things. Some people are really touched when their spouse spends time with them doing something they love to do (quality time), while some people feel most loved when their spouse gives them gifts (Gifts). Whether it be a flower picked from your own bush or a beautiful piece of jewelry.  

The book has lots of great ideas for couples that want to improve their marriage and in fact, many couples say that it saved their marriage. 

I know my love language is Acts of Service and I'm still working on figuring out my husband's.  

It really is a good book. Check it out for yourself.

I had a convo today with a friend of mine about grocery shopping. I know that doesn't sound very exciting but hey, it has to be done. Her normal approach to this less-than-fun task is to go down every aisle of the grocery store and try to remember what her family needs and then get it when she sees it. I am way too much of a planner for this approach to work for me, plus it most likely costs more and so I shared with her some things that I do to prepare for a grocery store run. 
1 - First, I always take a list. I keep a magnetic shopping list on my fridge and when we run out of something it gets added to the list. I've actually gotten my husband in on this and he will add things to the list that he needs too.
2 - Plan your menus for the week. I look over our family calendar for the week and see how many nights we will be eating at home. I go ahead and plan what I will cook for those nights and add the ingredients to the list. I will usually browse through the sales circulars and see whats on sale and plan my meals around that, which saves more money. 
3 - This may sound a little OCD to some of you, but I keep a shopping list on my computer. I sat down one day and wrote out everything we usually get at the grocery store. I broke it down into groups (paper products, bathroom items, and so forth). It helps a lot to print this out and use it for my list. I look through it and mark through the things we don't need, leaving what we do and then my list is done. Since it is saved on my computer I can print it out anytime and get my list done fast. It also means I don't usually forget things that I should have gotten.  
4 - If possible, I try to go shopping alone. It is quicker and cheaper. If the kids or the husband go with me they always put extra "stuff" in the cart.

There are a few more things that can help your grocery shopping trip be less of a chore. I don't always do these but they can be helpful. Don't go shopping when you're hungry. Trust me, you will buy things that you shouldn't. If possible, go on a weekday before people start getting off of their jobs. For me, the less crowded the store, the quicker I can get out, and the less stressed I get, which results in clearer thinking and smarter purchases. Also, using coupons is a great idea if you can. I do this occasionally but not like I should. 

Feel free to add other tips and ideas to the comments. We can all help each other with this required task! 

Welcome to my first blog. I've been thinking of doing this for a little while now. I guess it seems kinda arrogant to start a blog and think that you have something that people would actually want to read, but I do come up with some pretty neat ideas sometimes that I think would be worth sharing. I will tell you that you never know what you may find here...crafts, recipes, organizing tips, thoughts for the day, probably an occasional rant :-), things that moms and wives go through, and who knows what else. Thanks for checking it out and I hope you become a regular visitor :-)