I've been leading a class at our church on Wednesday nights about the 5 love languages described in the book of the same name. I really like the book and we have had a lot of laughs in our class. Always fun to discuss marriage with a group of married people :-)
The idea behind the book is that we all have a love language and in order to keep our imaginary "love tanks" (think internal gas tank) full we need to be spoken to in our love language. Dr. Chapman (the Christian counselor who wrote the book) has determined through his years of working with married couples that there are 5 different love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. When your spouse speaks to you in the language that says "LOVE" to you the most, then you respond to them in a positive way.
On the flip-side, if your love tank is empty, you are more likely to respond to your spouse with resentment and anger and bitterness. That's never fun!
It's like the way different people like different things. Some people are really touched when their spouse spends time with them doing something they love to do (quality time), while some people feel most loved when their spouse gives them gifts (Gifts). Whether it be a flower picked from your own bush or a beautiful piece of jewelry.
The book has lots of great ideas for couples that want to improve their marriage and in fact, many couples say that it saved their marriage.
I know my love language is Acts of Service and I'm still working on figuring out my husband's.
It really is a good book. Check it out for yourself.
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